1/10/09

The banks are really in trouble. There's more advertising than ever urging us to invest, be it savings accounts, portfolios or life insurance. Across the street, I see a massive sign about there being no such thing as saver's remorse. I haven't seen it in daylight yet, but I can only assume it's an ING ad.

I stumbled upon Nick Bostrom. It was his Letter from Utopia I found, but am very interested in his other writing. I would really like to meet him. I realize how few people I really have interest in meeting. I only care about finding the one, and anyone who can give me clues as to who he is.

Why the one? Because he'll provide me the ultimate mirror. He'll provide me proof of oneness, the universe. Through him, I'll see it. Until I see it, I'll keep searching.

I love David. I love his being and soul greater than any other man. I think he's inherently a good person, in search of being a happy and whole person. The problem with life is the restraints that life can put on a person's soul as it's trying to come into this world. If they're worn for a long time, they can become integrated into who that person believes he is, whether or not it helps or hinders their pursuit of personal goals. Sometimes you interact with that persona and it feels empty or frustrating because you find yourself falling into its emotional traps as you try to get to know the person, but that's because you're getting to know a mask...it's the emotions controlling the person, the clothes wearing the man. And a bad set of clothes a person doesn't feel comfortable in can be prison. It can make him do and say things that come more out of pain or fear of pain than out of who he really is. Behind the things created by this world is a real person. Behind all the crap that life lays on us, the traumatic experiences, the pain of loss, the anxiety, the loneliness, the fear, is a person. That's the real beauty. Our true unadulterated selves as imperfect humans is the absolute truth in beauty. But how visibly that beauty radiates in the light of day really depends on if the person has the strength, clarity, self-respect and self-compassion to take off the things they don't like, and put on things that make them more comfortable to be their true selves. I have no doubt David will find himself. I actually think he's well on his way. He has every reason to believe in himself and his capabilities. A lot of times people will want someone's committed support before stepping forward to take charge and create their own success, but even if the other person's wants to give as much support as they can, they'll never really be able to give them enough to feel confident, to fill that fearful void that urges people not to take the leap. Sometimes, one of their life lessons is to learn that it's ultimately up to them to take responsibility for achieving their own goals with or without the support of others. To see that they can be competent and successful on their own, that when they believe in themselves and reach a goal, they inherently earn respect and trust from the people who matter to them. Reaching places of higher self-esteem also allows people to fully appreciate the support of those around them because they are seeing it from a place of higher self-esteem, not a place of need. From there, healthy relationships fall into place, because a person now believes in himself or herself, and there's no fear of taking things too personally or being too rooted in the protection of one's own ego because there's nothing to be afraid of. Because that person's projected energy is whole and comfortable with itself, it opens a portal which allows this person to achieve a comfortable level of intimacy and deeply connect with another person who's an entire universe unto herself. That is the best feeling in the world.

I've been working hard on everything's that's come out. I have an appt with a counselor who specializes in anger issues tomorrow, and an appt with a guy whose smile in his picture reminded me of Ethan. Lately I've been remembering Ethan a lot, how he was someone I could show myself to and ask for help knowing he would never take anything from me while I was vulnerable. It was unfortunate that my hiding something kept us from being closer, as probably my opening up to someone trustworthy and kind would have probably created an immense amount of healing for me at a time when I was really seeking it. In hindsight, I can see that I was too young at the time, too scared of other people and myself, but I honestly believe I'm in the position to try again. Strangely, this guy works on the same floor of the same building I used to work in. There are two therapists in that office who used to harass me a bit which turned me off of male counselors, but he didn't start there until after I worked there, so he doesn't know who I am. Either way, I'm going to unravel this until I come to a level of peace with it to be able to get back on my path.

I'm really going crazy not having a job. Am not desperate for money or security, just want to be kept busy while I come up with ideas of where I need to be next. I talked to Whitney about her temp agency because since I don't even know if I want to stay in LA or move to SF, I really don't want to be committed to work. I would rather see where I get sent, and who makes me the best offer.

I've been reading a lot. I have many thoughts about many things. I started a new notebook. I think a lot about secrets. I watched a comedy show and realized how I was uncomfortable because all the jokes were mean. I realized how much closer my heart has gotten to my sleeve.

Overall I'm really happy, happier than I've ever been. I've come to realize how rich my life is, how much love and support i have in my life, and I can now consciously and honestly appreciate it. It's like having asthma all of my life and suddenly being able to breathe without restrictions. I am sad about certain things but I feel like what happens is what was meant to happen and if I just watch it unfold and don't succumb to fear or the influence of others, I'll be very happy with what I find.