every boy has a virgin/whore thing. they want the girl who's passionate and sexual and what they regard as a mysterious, powerful creature they can (or can't) tame, and also the girl who mothers him, believes in him and makes him a better man. they're simultaneously complementary and contradictory.

the thing is, all women are both. in our purest form, it's our essence. that's why men seek it. but it's the more self-actualized women who embody the duality with confidence.