I just realized...for someone so intuitive, my blinsights are really pretty huge and problematic. I really can't see accurately into people when they're too close to me.

It hit me a few minutes ago... I. Hate. Cheaters. I mean, it seems like a stupid, obvious statement, but I've been thinking...the worst thing about cheaters is the way they can look you in the eye and act like by feeling sooooo badly over what they've done, that you shouldn't blame them. But seriously, that martyr act is disgusting. Sometimes they even expect you to feel sorry for them, that what they went through, the torment and guilt over what they have done, was horrendous and really deserving of sympathy and open arms and forgiveness. And even comforting. Never mind that YOU are the person who was wronged. This is the difference between someone who is a habitual cheater and one who is not. Someone who is not will deal with the act and its ramifications on the relationship and his partner. They deal with what is at hand, because what is playing out is a breach of trust and all of its consequences. On the other hand, the habitual cheater has a problem...he has inner conflict about relationships and unfortunately, he plays them out in the most destructive manner possible. These people are dangerous both to themselves and the people close to them. The habitual cheater is playing out an emotional cycle that is actually a very painful game. It is not so much about the sex or the thrill, but about the sado-masochism of hurting something that means a lot to that person. It has nothing to do with the partner; it all has to do with himself. Again, unfortunately, their partners have to play a role in this destructive game and need to be hurt in order for this cycle to play out. Therefore, unless you are also looking to play out the complementary destructive cycle (wanting to get rejected), you should avoid these guys. (Hint to spotting them: These are the guys who, when they know they've done something small wrong that they know you're going to be mildly unhappy with but that they secretly think is ridiculous, will pull a martyr act and come off like they are obviously being so much harder on themselves than you could possibly be, and by you being angry, upset or anything but gentle, you would be hurting them even more than they really deserve. What they are really doing is testing your boundaries. Stand your ground; and when that sad little boy act is replaced by a irrational tantruming baby who thinks you're the biggest bitch for not letting him have his way, you'll know that you're dealing with someone who is not looking to be in a relationship, but basically looking for someone's permission and agreement to take part in enacting a very destructive cycle. And if you agree to stay in it, it's also your fault too, because you would have walked if a part of you hadn't subconsciously agreed to stay and take part in it)


I have to say, one of the most disgusting things about these men is... they will do it over and over and probably leave a lot of hurt women in their wake, but anyone who is courageous enough to stand up to him will get beat down by his childish, tantruming rage (even if the vindictiveness is carried out in a cold, calculating manner, do not be fooled. The rage is the mastermind and fuel). And if the guy is smart, he'll often go to very calculating methods of cutting this person up so that she doesn't have anymore power in his eyes. He'll destroy the reputation of this woman behind her back by presenting her in a certain negative light to other people. He'll call her derogatory names. He'll exhibit all kinds of misogynistic attitudes when talking about this woman. He may even embellish stories about her to illustrate points in his favor. He will do whatever it takes to take away this woman's power in his eyes. But in truth, these men are doing themselves a grand disservice. Because basically, they are fighting for their lives to be able to continue this destructive cycle, and they are so angry when others won't give them permission to do it.