I want to talk about porn again. You know why people who get addicted to porn get addicted to porn? It truly is an addiction. It helps them detach. To detach emotional intimacy from the act. Because something about it is scary or problematic or painful. Porns are so detached and mechanical. The end goal is just physical orgasm. The very nature of pornography and its relationship with the viewer in the long run will create unrealistic expectations within the viewer when it comes to sex or his/her partner, and even more tragically, will make it harder for that person to truly enjoy sexual experiences and everything it encompasses.

When someone dependent on porn experiences or witnesses something that has the emotional/spiritual passion to it, be that from watching a movie, glimpsing it between two strangers or within his or her own personal experience, it'll probably make this person feel somewhat uncomfortable because there's an emotional rawness to it that's scary. There are various causes but the bottom line is that something hurts them when it comes to sex. When someone "needs" porn (in that, they are extremely uncomfortable with the idea of not having porn immediately available), it definitely denotes problems related to sex and sexual intimacy, but also indicates a defensive ploy to protect an emotional wound. Just as with drugs and alcohol, I really worry about people who use porn to detach their emotions from sex or realistic relations with the opposite sex. It makes it much more difficult to be able to relate to someone from the opposite sex in a realistic and satisfying way. People who use porn to numb themselves will find it very difficult to relate in a healthy fashion. Because they already have an emotional/psychological issue but have dealt with it in the worst possible fashion, they will only attract experiences or people that actually hurt them. They're really shooting themselves in the foot. I would even bet money that if people did a psych survey, they would find that a high percentage of people who need control in their lives also watch porn or have issues with sex. For some reason, sex is problematic for the control freak.

If you're someone with a porn problem and saying, she's just judging us and that's fucked up. What gives her the right and what the hell does she know? Then let's just say, I've had some self-realizations as I continue my introspective phase and have realized some things that I've done to hurt myself. If you don't have a problem, then for the record, I'm just kidding y'all.